The fact that in the original Hebrew text of Proverbs 25:7–10 words like quarrels
and being put to shame
appear time and again shows that there is a close connection within these verses. That is why it is best to deal with them together here. What is less obvious is whether this is specifically about an official court case. It is better to think, first of all, about a mutual dispute which runs the risk of turning into legal action.
The purpose is to warn against a hurried reaction from what the eyes (see Proverbs 25:7c) have seen regarding evil things done by another person. Think first about whether it is wise to react right away. To react right away is not always wise.
Think of a situation during a sports match. Someone from the other team has done something wrong, and you run directly to the referee. You want this wrong action to be punished immediately. The result of this could be that the referee, who is not pleased with your unsolicited advice, will keep an extra eye on you, and later on, when you do something wrong, will give you a red card right away! In summary, think first about how to react wisely to the mistake of a fellow human being.
When it comes to an official legal court case, which is what Proverbs 25:9 is about, then stick to the point in question. Do not introduce other matters and certainly not any secrets which you know from the other person.
Proverbs 11:13 fits here: Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered (compare with Proverbs 20:19).
Proverbs 25:10 shows that by revealing the secrets of your opponent, the danger is not just imaginary and that it is not only hurtful for the other person, but it can also be extremely hurtful for yourself.
The Jewish Study Bible is accurate when it notes with these verses, Preserve his secrets even when angry. If you violate his confidence, your own reputation will be harmed.
The ending of this verse is quite alarming. Literally translated, it says, And your ill repute will not return.
And so, during a whole lifetime, there can be negative results for both parties.
7 for it is better to be told, “Come up here,” than to be put lower in the presence of a noble. What your eyes have seen