When you look closely at Song of Solomon 3:1–5, you will notice the difference between the dream (described here) and the reality. In Song of Solomon 3:1–11, when she had gone to find her husband, the guards treated her well. But in her dream things are different: they beat her and take away her veil. It seems that in her dream she is afraid that the guards will think she is a prostitute.
As it happens in a dream, the end comes suddenly when something bad happens. We see here how this woman is concerned with her husband in her subconscious. She does not want to lose him. His love is so important to her. This shows us that in a marriage where we know Christ as our Saviour and King, it is so important to do everything together. To be working at the relationship in deep dependence on God, and in prayer to continue to love each other with wonder and amazement. To live together out of Christ as the One who redeemed your guilt before God, being at peace with the Lord.
Isn’t one of the causes of the deterioration of love in marriages that we take so little time to live together in love for Christ? In our living with Christ as our Husband—remember Ephesians 5:23–33—we should also take time to enjoy each other’s love, and that we want to share the things of our lives together. Don’t we too often allow the world to preoccupy us with all kinds of activities? Not to mention all kinds of amusements that take up a lot of time in the lives of so many, such that there is no time left to talk confidentially together. We do not have time for it, because we wish to be entertained. Aren’t we too often preoccupied with our position in society and therefore so busy that we hardly make time for each other?
It is so important to truly desire to live our lives based on Christ as our Saviour and King in genuine and tender interest in each other as husband and wife. Where the love of Christ is reigning, we learn to prefer to be less important to others and less regarded by others than to see love suffering in our marriage. The Lord calls us in our marriage to be and remain truly full of love for one another, and to be one body in all things. Realize that living out of the love of God and therefore according to his Word gives you so much more, also in your marriage. When you live together like this, your life is truly good, because of Christ’s blessing on your life.
7 The watchmen found me as they went about in the city; they beat me, they bruised me, they took away my veil, those watchmen of the walls.