It is clear that his wife is looking forward to the day when her husband will come home again. She looks outside and sees someone coming over the mountains. She knows her beloved well. She recognizes him from afar. She knows his movements like none other. She also sees that he is happy, for he is leaping and jumping. He is so glad to be coming home again, that he can be with his wife again. He runs like a gazelle, like a young deer he bounds down the hills. Now that he no longer needs to be away from home, he wants to be with his wife as quickly as possible.
This is how it should be in a marriage where the love of Christ is reigning. Then you do not want to be away from each other any longer than is really necessary. It is a bad sign if you have been away from home for a while and then you first go and visit your friends in the area, before going home to your husband or wife. If you first seek the friendship and warmth of your friends and then go to your wife or family hours later, something is not right in your relationship. Then it is really time to examine yourself and your marriage, and then to start working on it from Christ's love and work of redemption. Where love is present according to God’s will, the husband and wife prefer to be together.
Love also knows the game: teasing each other a little. We see this happen when the husband comes home. His wife has seen him coming and that makes her extremely happy. Yet this time she does not rush out of the house to meet him. She stays in the house. It looks like she is not there. It seems as if this man wants to surprise his wife, because he, too, does not enter immediately. He looks through the window. He is trying to find out where she may be. He knows she is there.
9 My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. Behold, there he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, looking through the lattice.