Shortly after the encounter with the guards she finds her husband. She finds him with whom her whole being is connected. She is so happy to have found him again and therefore does not want to let him go. She does not ever want to be so worried about him again. Her life is life together with him. When he is not with her, she feels an empty place in her heart. She cannot imagine having to go through life without him.
They go back home. She now says that she brings him to her mother’s house, and that they are going to the room that reminds them especially of her mother. It appears that her mother is no longer alive. Her mother was a very important person in her life, possibly because her father died early. In fact, we only read about her mother and her brothers in the Song of Solomon, not about her father. It seems that this woman and her husband are now living in the house where she always used to live with her mother. They go to the room that was her mother’s bedroom and which is now their bedroom. She now seeks to be ever so close to him, to hold him tightly as a sign that she never wants to lose him again.
We see here how there is so much more than sexuality in a Christian marriage, where the couple lives out of God’s love. With your whole heart you are bound to the other in love. You are there for each other, filled with loving care for the other, and also seeking to dedicate your life to the other.
4 Scarcely had I passed them when I found him whom my soul loves. I held him, and would not let him go until I had brought him into my mother’s house, and into the chamber of her who conceived me.